Passion pushes through
pride
| TUESDAY, AUGUST
22, 2006
Passion pushes through pride
This image is passionate to me because of the red sheets and the
red lipstick but also because of her closed eyes and the gentle
hesitancy in her hands as she tastes him. She has allowed him to
ejaculate on her face; messing up her hair and make-up, but by that
point she probably doesn't care any more because together they have
reached a state of going beyond all thoughts of how they look and
they don't give a damn if they get dirty. What a release from the
masks we usually wear!
Here is a female point of view, provoked by a man commenting that
he couldn't imagine why anyone would find this degrading...
"I remember experimenting with this some time ago, the first
time, how hesitant I was. Like, it wasn't necessary to do such a
thing, why all over my face? what do you get out of this? what do
I get out of this? I don't get it... what's the point? it reminded
me of "dirty sex" (porn)... where is the love in that?
But I did it because he asked me to and I saw the beauty in it and
it tasted beautiful because is was his and it was okay and it pushed
through my pride and allowed me to give myself to him very humbly,
not caring what I looked like anymore, if I got wet or sticky or
"dirty". He was loving and gentle and grateful and I felt
good about it. I had given him something beyond what I thought I
could, but I never would have done it except that he asked."
The love is where we put it. Any act can be executed with violence
and the very same act can be offered with love. In sex, there is
nothing anyone HAS to do, we can stay within our comfort zones with
our partners for as long as we wish. But when we judge and reject
things that others are doing that we've never tried, based on stories
of disrespect and abuse, we cannot really know the beauty in them.
And I believe that every time we enact something with love, it goes
a long way towards erasing the pain that abuse has engendered.
Comments:
Anonymous said...
pain... abuse... acting with love.
there is nothing i would not do for my lover. And i do mean nothing.
But i have discovered something. it is all in how i am asked.
i am guilty of a few things...
pride
anger
desire
judgment
thinking
did i mention pride
ok outright hubris
many wars have started from misplaced pride. many have stopped from
well placed love.
if i arrive at my lovers house to find the sink full of dishes,
the vacuum at the ready and a meal to prepare, while he watches
the game, he will probably hear the door slamming behind me.
if i arrive and he says: Darling i had a horrible day i am too tired
to cook and clean and i know i promised you dinner but would you
mind...this time...
he will probably get his dishes cleaned and a back rub too.
if i feel he only invited me over to get some housework done he
will be rubbing something himself! for a while!!
is it just pride to want to feel loved and desired
what causes anger to show its ugly head when pride is hurt
i know he loves me
of course this goes for the bedroom too.
i want to please him and i am willing to push past my boundaries
i can think of no act i would not try if it is wrapped in love
i believe our (my) fears with sexual experimentation have more to
do with the plain old sins of pride etc.(see list above) than any
physical thing we might consider a sin.
how can i sin while expressing love to my lover
is slamming the door a sin xoxo |
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